Letting go... (Part 2)

Today, I met 1 of my gal frens.. she's extremely troubled over her relationship. She & her boyfriend often quarrel & she knows that she should just end the relationship but somehow could not bear to do so.

I've been through the same situation recently. Fell for a guy.. he told me he liked me too... but cited religion as the reason that we could not be together "officially".
I knew that I shld not even "go near" him.. I should at most just remain as friends with him. However, things went out of control... & I fell in deeper & deeper. Same situation as my friend.. knew that I had to let go but couldn't bear to do it. But in the end I did. My "defense mechanism" kicked in & prevented me from spiraling further down...

It definitely takes time for me to fully "recover" & snap out of it.. This guy friend of mine even mentioned he think he had "ruined" my life.. I beg to differ... It's a matter of choice..
Do I choose to let go or continue hanging on to this whole affair even though I know it's not meant to be?
It's simply a choice & a change in mindset. I chose to let go...
We've not reached the stage of love & commitment yet. Though it was painful, at least the "pain" was minimized.
I became a happier person & hopefully, gained a friend in return.

If my gal fren happened to read this, I would like to tell her that it's not an easy decision to make. It's never easy when we're in the relationship & our objectivity fails us. It's never easy when we think of how nice the other party is & we can almost overlook the "not so nice" parts of the relationship. It's never easy when the other party fails to let go & you've to be the one to do it. It's never easy when you think that as long as you compromise a bit, the whole relationship might work!

However, you know that it will not.. You're simply delaying the inevitable.
You do not wish to hate the other person... & trust me.. it's easier if you end it earlier.. If you continue dragging it on, both parties will end up getting deeply hurt.
I hate to comment on others' relationships especially when it involves passing judgement & "breaking up" couples. However, in this instance, I care more for the well-being of this gal fren of mine & I've seen how unhappy she has become. Time to let go then...

However, whatever decision she chose to make, I'd stand by her & give her my utmost support.. coz I know how difficult it is to be logical & do the right thing.. it's always easier to remain status quo & not make any decision.. You simply hope that with time, something good might come out of the relationship. If you really think that it'll, then do try on for a period.
But deep down inside, if you know it will not, just let go...
Definitely easier said than done... it'll take a lot of will power but it's something that you must do..

Ultimately, we all need to learn how to let go...