Perceptions & truth
What do we mean by the truth?
Pretty often, what we believe in are merely our perceptions. Conflicts arise due to the different perceptions towards one matter.
Take for instance.. I might feel that someone is lying to me.. However, that person in question is hurt or feels indignant if he finds out that I think in this way.. He might think that I doubt his character & integrity.
But how do we define the word "lie"? It could simply means that actions do not match his words. I'll leave it up to the individual to decide whether the word has different implications when it's done with the intention or without/subconsciously.
Sigh... Recently, I got into this situation involving the definition of lies, integrity & honesty.
A big messy lot..
Then one fren came along & asked me this qn: Do u really need the company of this particular fren?
At that point of time, I felt as if I were Newton & an apple has just dropped on me! Eureka! I got it!
I've many frens.. each is different & unique. No one can substitute another. However, it's only a matter of my choice as in whom I want to be frens with & remain so. No man is an island.. but again, no 1 will die w/o the company of a specific person. I've chosen to make my stand & I guess it's up to that particular fren to accept it or walk out. Well... I guess this sounds rather curt.. but in reality, when ppl are frens, it's coz they enjoy each other's company & there's a particular bonding. However, at times when there is a strain, the relationship can only heal & strengthen or simply not withstand the test & break. It also depends how badly I want to remain as frens or rather how much efforts I wish to put in. I value friendship but if 1 party feels that he's short-changed, then it's time to re-evaluate on whether u wish to continue on...
Well.. life's always abt choices... We made the choice & we'll have to accept the consequences whether we like it or not... Regret? We might from time to time but do not wallow in it.. move on...
Pretty often, what we believe in are merely our perceptions. Conflicts arise due to the different perceptions towards one matter.
Take for instance.. I might feel that someone is lying to me.. However, that person in question is hurt or feels indignant if he finds out that I think in this way.. He might think that I doubt his character & integrity.
But how do we define the word "lie"? It could simply means that actions do not match his words. I'll leave it up to the individual to decide whether the word has different implications when it's done with the intention or without/subconsciously.
Sigh... Recently, I got into this situation involving the definition of lies, integrity & honesty.
A big messy lot..
Then one fren came along & asked me this qn: Do u really need the company of this particular fren?
At that point of time, I felt as if I were Newton & an apple has just dropped on me! Eureka! I got it!
I've many frens.. each is different & unique. No one can substitute another. However, it's only a matter of my choice as in whom I want to be frens with & remain so. No man is an island.. but again, no 1 will die w/o the company of a specific person. I've chosen to make my stand & I guess it's up to that particular fren to accept it or walk out. Well... I guess this sounds rather curt.. but in reality, when ppl are frens, it's coz they enjoy each other's company & there's a particular bonding. However, at times when there is a strain, the relationship can only heal & strengthen or simply not withstand the test & break. It also depends how badly I want to remain as frens or rather how much efforts I wish to put in. I value friendship but if 1 party feels that he's short-changed, then it's time to re-evaluate on whether u wish to continue on...
Well.. life's always abt choices... We made the choice & we'll have to accept the consequences whether we like it or not... Regret? We might from time to time but do not wallow in it.. move on...
posted by The Rose Box @ 12:50 AM
1 Comments:
At 5/25/2005 9:05 AM,
Anonymous said…
I'm of the opinion that friendship changes with time. I remember I used to have a good friend from secondary school whom I share lotsa stuff. But with lack of contact, partly my fault, we drifted so that when we met last december, only superficial words were exchanged.
No one is indispensable. No one is perfect. I find it irritating that some of my friends are so competitive... in terms of pay, job promotions and the other glam factors in life. Yet I still keep them in my company. For all their perceived flaws, they are essentially good people. Only led by their material desires and of course, ego. Talk about the self... hehehe
Paul
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