Guys nowadays... sighz...
Okok.. this is not about all guys.. it's basically just 1 guy fren of mine.
Gals, have u ever wonder why the guys nowadays are so petty? Yes... I wonder if being metrosexual or SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guys) have anything to do with their sensitivity level.. Does it work both ways i.e. they're more sensitive to your needs but at the same time, you've to be more sensitive to theirs??
Well... the above para was just a general comment abt most guys nowadays.. but back to my story abt me & my guy fren..
I'm currently taking pop piano lessons with a fren. We're into our 3rd level (where there're 4 other frens in the 1st 2 levels but they subsequently dropped out leaving us as the survivors). One day, the piano teacher gave me a call asking if it was alright to change our weekly lessons from Wed to Fri since she's doing some re-shuffling among her classes. Much as I do not like lessons on Fridays (well, that's the time when my frens jio me out for coffee, let our hair down, etc.), I was agreeable as this condition will last only abt 2 mths plus. And knowing how busy our teacher is with her lessons, I agreed to help her inform my fren. I sms him, & he replied "ok". So our lessons were "officially" changed to every Fri. As this narrator here is getting a little senile, she actually forgot that on the following Fri, she had brought tickets to watch a performance. Hence, no choice.. msg teacher, asked if can postpone or change lesson's timing. Then, at the same time, msg-ing my fren to inform him abt the situation. I was rather tired that day.. coz plenty of work to clear & just stepped out of the office abt 9+pm.
Surprised that there was no reply from my fren, abt a couple of hrs later, when I went online & met my fren, I asked him if he received my msg. He went something like "Are we both taking piano lessons together?" "Er... yes..." "Then I'd appreciate it if you discuss with me first before talking to the teacher."
I was mad to see this statement appearing in my MSN msg-box. Hence I reiterated "I was merely checking with the teacher if there's another arrangement" (of coz since knowing her busy schedule) "& if you're unhappy, u shld have replied to my msg. And I'd appreciate it if you can actually let me know if u're unhappy abt the arrangement." Being deat beat, I did the most sensible thing next. I logged off & went to bed. But my hp sounded. My fren just msg me asking if the change to Fri was my idea. I told him it was that of the teacher & that I logged off merely coz I was tired. Next morning, having no choice but to settle the lesson issue, I had to msg my fren again. I told him that if he was unhappy with the arrangement, kindly let me know & lesson will go on on Fri & I'll just miss a class. He replied "If I have to change my personal appt to attend piano on Fri, I'd not complain. Tell me if I'm unreasonable for asking you to discuss with me first before talking to the teacher. If yes, I'd not argue." "No, I wld not say u're unreasonable. But I do not understand what is the issue here. I merely checked with the teacher if there's another time & if u're unhappy, shld hv let me known." And I ended the exchange as I refused to argue over sms-es. It's both stupid & counterproductive.
On Sat, I received a msg from my fren, informing me he was in KL & would appreciate if I can ask the teacher to switch the lesson back to every Wed or Sat instead. I was pissed... & told him to inform teacher himself. He replied that it was more convenient since I was in S'pore & he further requested to postpone lessons for a mth since he's going to US & Europe end Aug. I told him to negotiate with the teacher himself. I was hopping mad.. This guy here had agreed to the change in lesson timing without thinking further. He flared up at me thinking that I was the one who went ahead to change the lesson without asking him. And what's more, he refused to admit his mistake when I told him the "truth" (yeah.. the truth he wasn't "listening" to right from the start..it's the teacher's request to change the timing!!). And he has the guts to ask me to inform the teacher after "gunning me down" a couple of times. Told him sms-g me from KL is more ex.. calling will be cheaper. Refused to listen. Refused to call the teacher too since he thinks overseas calls are ex. Well.. if u decide to be cheapo, solve your own prob.
Well.. I know there's no point getting angry with such a guy.. It might be just an oversight on his part. But there're certain principles of mine here that he violated: 1) I hate to be maligned. 2) I hate to be scolded for no rhyme or reason. 3) And if you've violated the first 2 principles, you jolly well apologise & being a soft-hearted person, I might just relent. You can simply tell me u made a mistake in assuming that I was the one who made the change. Fair enough.. I'll just over-look the whole matter. I do not like to argue but neither will I back away from a situation where I am not at fault.
Pride's important to everyone.. not only to a guy. But if you let your stupid pride stand in front of you & it blinded your vision such that you made the wrong judgement if then, even refuse to admit your own fault, then accept the consequences & dun whine. When I knew he misunderstood me, I explained. But this fren just refused to accept or "listen". How can anyone pour any more water into a vessel when it's full (so full of himself or of wrong conceptions)?? Sigh.. I can only say good luck to this fren who wishes to change back the lesson timing.. coz I'm totally against weekends (not to spite him but I generally have quite a few appts on weekends). So guess he'd hv to readjust his schedule around the lessons these few weeks!
Gals, have u ever wonder why the guys nowadays are so petty? Yes... I wonder if being metrosexual or SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guys) have anything to do with their sensitivity level.. Does it work both ways i.e. they're more sensitive to your needs but at the same time, you've to be more sensitive to theirs??
Well... the above para was just a general comment abt most guys nowadays.. but back to my story abt me & my guy fren..
I'm currently taking pop piano lessons with a fren. We're into our 3rd level (where there're 4 other frens in the 1st 2 levels but they subsequently dropped out leaving us as the survivors). One day, the piano teacher gave me a call asking if it was alright to change our weekly lessons from Wed to Fri since she's doing some re-shuffling among her classes. Much as I do not like lessons on Fridays (well, that's the time when my frens jio me out for coffee, let our hair down, etc.), I was agreeable as this condition will last only abt 2 mths plus. And knowing how busy our teacher is with her lessons, I agreed to help her inform my fren. I sms him, & he replied "ok". So our lessons were "officially" changed to every Fri. As this narrator here is getting a little senile, she actually forgot that on the following Fri, she had brought tickets to watch a performance. Hence, no choice.. msg teacher, asked if can postpone or change lesson's timing. Then, at the same time, msg-ing my fren to inform him abt the situation. I was rather tired that day.. coz plenty of work to clear & just stepped out of the office abt 9+pm.
Surprised that there was no reply from my fren, abt a couple of hrs later, when I went online & met my fren, I asked him if he received my msg. He went something like "Are we both taking piano lessons together?" "Er... yes..." "Then I'd appreciate it if you discuss with me first before talking to the teacher."
I was mad to see this statement appearing in my MSN msg-box. Hence I reiterated "I was merely checking with the teacher if there's another arrangement" (of coz since knowing her busy schedule) "& if you're unhappy, u shld have replied to my msg. And I'd appreciate it if you can actually let me know if u're unhappy abt the arrangement." Being deat beat, I did the most sensible thing next. I logged off & went to bed. But my hp sounded. My fren just msg me asking if the change to Fri was my idea. I told him it was that of the teacher & that I logged off merely coz I was tired. Next morning, having no choice but to settle the lesson issue, I had to msg my fren again. I told him that if he was unhappy with the arrangement, kindly let me know & lesson will go on on Fri & I'll just miss a class. He replied "If I have to change my personal appt to attend piano on Fri, I'd not complain. Tell me if I'm unreasonable for asking you to discuss with me first before talking to the teacher. If yes, I'd not argue." "No, I wld not say u're unreasonable. But I do not understand what is the issue here. I merely checked with the teacher if there's another time & if u're unhappy, shld hv let me known." And I ended the exchange as I refused to argue over sms-es. It's both stupid & counterproductive.
On Sat, I received a msg from my fren, informing me he was in KL & would appreciate if I can ask the teacher to switch the lesson back to every Wed or Sat instead. I was pissed... & told him to inform teacher himself. He replied that it was more convenient since I was in S'pore & he further requested to postpone lessons for a mth since he's going to US & Europe end Aug. I told him to negotiate with the teacher himself. I was hopping mad.. This guy here had agreed to the change in lesson timing without thinking further. He flared up at me thinking that I was the one who went ahead to change the lesson without asking him. And what's more, he refused to admit his mistake when I told him the "truth" (yeah.. the truth he wasn't "listening" to right from the start..it's the teacher's request to change the timing!!). And he has the guts to ask me to inform the teacher after "gunning me down" a couple of times. Told him sms-g me from KL is more ex.. calling will be cheaper. Refused to listen. Refused to call the teacher too since he thinks overseas calls are ex. Well.. if u decide to be cheapo, solve your own prob.
Well.. I know there's no point getting angry with such a guy.. It might be just an oversight on his part. But there're certain principles of mine here that he violated: 1) I hate to be maligned. 2) I hate to be scolded for no rhyme or reason. 3) And if you've violated the first 2 principles, you jolly well apologise & being a soft-hearted person, I might just relent. You can simply tell me u made a mistake in assuming that I was the one who made the change. Fair enough.. I'll just over-look the whole matter. I do not like to argue but neither will I back away from a situation where I am not at fault.
Pride's important to everyone.. not only to a guy. But if you let your stupid pride stand in front of you & it blinded your vision such that you made the wrong judgement if then, even refuse to admit your own fault, then accept the consequences & dun whine. When I knew he misunderstood me, I explained. But this fren just refused to accept or "listen". How can anyone pour any more water into a vessel when it's full (so full of himself or of wrong conceptions)?? Sigh.. I can only say good luck to this fren who wishes to change back the lesson timing.. coz I'm totally against weekends (not to spite him but I generally have quite a few appts on weekends). So guess he'd hv to readjust his schedule around the lessons these few weeks!
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